People typically don’t get divorced because they’re happy in their marriage, but that doesn’t mean you have to let your negative emotions run the show at the end of your marriage. Despite the common belief that divorce must inevitably become an acrimonious and contentious dispute between spouses, you and the rest of your family could very well benefit from minimizing how much you fight.

The more you battle, the more expensive and emotionally draining your divorce will come. All of that extra expense and stress will likely result in little practical benefit for you. No matter how hard you dig in your heels, it is not possible to “win” in divorce.

The courts will always consider the needs of both parties in any decision they make, which is why working together often makes a lot more sense than fighting bitterly. Adjusting your attitude to one of practical acceptance early in the process can benefit everyone in your family.

Staying calm means staying in control

The more emotional you become as your divorce progresses, the more likely you are to try to punish your ex or take actions that reflect your emotional state rather than your legal rights. The courts will generally try to rule in a manner that is fair and reasonable that complies with state laws and standards.

The standard for Texas divorces, as far as property division goes, involves the community property rule. That means that regardless of how angry you are at your spouse, both of you will likely have a share in the assets and debts you acquired throughout your marriage.

When it comes to child custody, your relationship will matter much less than the best interests of the children. The courts want to do what would be best for the kids, which will typically mean protecting the rules of both parents in the family.

Instead of trying to fight over every detail and term, accepting that you will share your assets and share custody of your children can make it easier for the two of you to get on the same page and work together to set reasonable terms for your Texas divorce, allowing the whole process to go by much more quickly and affordably.