When it comes to divorce, there is no right way of doing things. Needless to say, people will make mistakes along the way, too, and those mistakes may, unfortunately, end up hurting the people involved.
Fortunately, there are ways to potentially cut down on these mistakes and the hurt feelings that may follow. You can start by knowing how you want to break news of the divorce in the first place.
Getting a head start
As Psychology Today states, there is no singular right way to tell your children about divorce. However, experts generally agree that you should break the news as soon as possible. First of all, children often have a higher level of perception than parents want to think. Your kids will likely pick up on something “off” even before you tell them about the split.
Second, this gives them more valuable time to process their emotions and figure out how they want to cope with the upcoming changes. By delaying notifying them of the split, you rob them of the chance to sort through their feelings at their own pace, which can lead to a rushed and patchy foundation and coping problems in the future.
Planning the discussion
When it comes to the content of the discussion, there is more wiggle room. You should avoid outright lying to your child, especially as they will figure it out sooner or later. At the same time, you should not discuss every single detail of the divorce with them. They are your children and not your friends, and there is no reason for them to have access to personal information.
Based on your child’s unique maturity level and personality, you can use these guidelines to create a decent plan for breaking the news.