Even though divorce is more common among couples with newer marriages, gray divorce is not exactly rare in Texas or anywhere else. Gray divorce happens when individuals over the age of 50 decide to call it quits. If you have been with your spouse for decades, the news of the end of your marriage may be bothersome to your adult children.
Your grown kid may appear to be busy living their lives. Still, according to a new book by author Bruce Fendenberg, adult children may experience anger, sadness and resentment about their parents’ divorce. They also may develop a different view of their childhoods. Consequently, to help your kids manage, you may want to develop a plan for telling them about your impending divorce.
Ask your spouse to join you
Your adult children may see you and your spouse as a unit instead of separate individuals. Accordingly, when breaking the news of your divorce to your kids, it may be wise to ask your soon-to-be ex-spouse to join you for a calm and united conversation. Of course, if you are not on good terms with your husband or wife, you may have to have the talk by yourself.
Address the upcoming year
Many parents vacation with their grown kids, spend holidays with them or otherwise play an active role in their lives. Because your divorce may throw a wrench into your family’s plans for the upcoming year, you should address each event. Be sure to tell your kids which plans are likely to change and which ones are going to say the same.
Your adult kids may need some time to process the news of your divorce. Ultimately, by making yourself available for many discussions, you demonstrate your commitment to an ongoing and positive relationship with your grown children.