Divorce is something that impacts the lives of every member of your family, including your children. Unfortunately, the process is also often just as traumatic for them due to the impact a divorce has on all aspects of life as they know it.
Though you cannot shield them from all of the negative effects of dealing with this sort of relationship schism, it is possible to make things easier.
Do not sabotage relationships
Today discusses important tips for getting through a divorce. They give a list of things you should and should not do when trying to help your child through the split. For things you should avoid, do not attempt to sabotage your child’s relationship with your co-parent. No matter how bitter or angry you are, your child has a right to a healthy relationship with both parents, and it is egregious and out of line to try taking that away from them.
This also means do not badmouth your co-parent, withhold support or try to interfere with visitation or custody arrangements. In trying to drive a wedge between your child and co-parent, you might just make them feel resentful toward you instead.
Take your time figuring things out
Regarding what you should do, take your time figuring out the divorce settlement. Though you surely want to get it done and over with, you must come to an agreement that ultimately offers the biggest and best benefit to your child.
On top of that, encourage emotional expression and sharing thoughts and feelings. Do not expect them to bottle up their negative emotions over the divorce. Encourage open discussion, questions and frank conversation where possible to prevent them from bottling and sitting on negativity.