When divorce occurs, few feel the impact as much as the family’s children and their parents may wonder if there is anything they can do to ease the blow. NBC News reports that children may better handle divorce through birdnesting, where parents take turns living with the kids in the family residence but otherwise maintain separate apartments.
Birdnesting can have several advantages for both parents and their children, and understanding these benefits may help to divorce individuals ease their children into a new normal for the future.
Routines remain intact
When parents maintain the family home and share equal time with the children there, they can salvage many of the routines that help their kids feel more secure. While the parents may have to make a few minor adjustments, many routines can remain in place, including:
- School drop off/pick up
- Bed prep/bedtime
Because the children remain in the family home and there is no need for them to pack up their lives each weekend to visit the non-custodial parent and instead maintain a sense of normalcy to help them make a smoother transition post-divorce.
A gentler shift for the future
One problem that often plagues children of divorce is how abrupt the changes occur. This may especially disrupt the lives of younger kids who require stability, routine and boundaries to develop a healthy sense of emotional well-being. It is important for parents who birdnest to understand that this transition usually works best short term, from anywhere to three to six months.
Birdnesting itself is a process that requires the cooperation of both parents, so the divorcing individuals may want to work to cooperate as much as possible. Family counseling may assist with making birdnesting possible.