Going through a divorce is hard not only on you but also on your children. Many parents try to keep their children’s lives as steady as possible. With nesting, your kids stay in the home, and you and your spouse take turns moving out.
Here is some information from Psychology Today about how nesting might work for your family.
Nesting may provide a transition
When your marriage is ending, you have many decisions to make in terms of child custody and living arrangements. Deciding who stays in the family home requires a lot of consideration. If you and your ex try nesting for a short period, it buys you some time to make big decisions such as these.
Nesting gives you a lot of flexibility, too. The beauty of the nesting arrangement is that you can tailor it to your family’s needs. If you are not able to afford two living spaces, you might choose to share an off-premises apartment with your former spouse. Sometimes parents are able to set up a separate apartment within their house, such as in the basement with a distinct entrance.
Nesting may provide stability
When your children remain in the house, in many ways their lives stay the same. Keeping all of their possessions in one place may be easier to deal with than dividing things between two locations. They do not need to adjust to a new living space which may be far from school and friends. And it allows children to maintain a strong bond with both parents.
The termination of a marriage does not mean the dissolution of a family. You may keep your family as strong as possible during this time by proving to your children that you and your ex can communicate well and that you are trying to get along together. If this is feasible, then nesting may provide the support and stability your family craves as you head down a new path.